I am not sure how long this term has been going around but some time ago, I read a post about finding your mom tribe. A group of women that you feel almost kin too? Seems ridiculous at first but honestly doesn’t the concept sound nice? Now I use to be a through and through career women. It was nothing to work a 60 hour work week, the field that I was in needed it. The people I cared for needed it but then after having my second child my family needed me more at home.
Then I became a stay at home mom.
I love it and nothing anyone could say will cause me to change my mind.
However there are aspects of it that are challenging like making friends that are not work friends.
How does a stay at home mom make friends and find her mom tribe?
Oh and I homeschool so how does a stay at home mom that homeschools find her mom tribe?
Homeschool Mom Tribe
Well I didn’t actively seek them out. I joined a homeschool co-op and got my children involved with sports through our homeschool community. I also created this homeschool blog and have met so many types of homeschool moms online and in real life…
I live and breath the homeschool community.
There is Susan a type A personality very regimented, a planner and scheduler. She gets up at the crack of dawn, gets her housework done and has breakfast on the table by the time her two kids mosey down. Kid’s chores are called “life skill lessons.” She prefers a traditional curriculum and just swears by Abeka. Her home is always neat and tidy as are her children. Yes, she exists I have met her she is a rock star, you can meet her too at Geez, Gwen!
Celeste is beautiful in her soul, her love for life is awe inspiring. Her children are wild and free. She unschools or as she calls it “delight directed.” A natural homesteader. She is always making her own herbals and her own elderberry syrup. She names her children things like Star or Moon light. My inspiration for celeste came from Sharla at Minnesota Country Girl and a blend of a few other homeschool moms I know in real life.
I can relate to Nicole she has 3 kids, enjoys crafting, loves anything Charlotte Mason, house work is called “responsibility,” reads regularly for “mother culture,” kids either play violin or piano or are always outside.
Rebecca is hilarious! She has lost count of how many children she has, survives on coffee and comedically vents about her chaos. She changes her homeschool style every 3 months, says she is “eclectic” and addicted to purchasing curriculum. She has her kids in every sport, co-op, and club.
I posted this meme on my facebook page and I had an overwhelming response. In fact, many homeschool moms felt they were a blend of each. However some felt left out or that they didn’t fit in any type at all.
Honestly, I only limited to the above four because of the amount of space that I had in the small image. There are soooo many more homeschool mom types.
Like Tiffany she loves coffee almost as much as she loves Jesus. She gives her children cute little nicknames like “bear” or “ninja warrior.” She is upbeat, positive yet understands the mountains of laundry, the thankless days, and the endless to do list. When you find yourself in the trenches of motherhood she is the first to reach down and lift you back up, with the help of Jesus of course. You can actually met her here: Tiffany at Outmatched Mama.
Then you have that homeschool mom that is always trying to come up with a side hustle. She is mostly like Nicole with an unknown amount of children and a unquenchable thirst for coffee like Rebecca. It helps that she is the pastors wife. She juggles many roles being a homeschool mom, wife, piano teacher, etsy shop owner, and homeschool blogger her name is Abby at 4onemore.com.
How about Robin?
Right now she is going through a season in life. New baby, a toddler, and two others that are formally being homeschooled by her. She looks exhausted and is always late to everything. She isn’t wearing makeup, is sporting dark circles, and is scarfing her lunch down why the older kids play during free time at co-op. The baby is crying and the toddler is suction cupped to her leg. You catch her eye, she gives you a weak earnest smile, looks down at her children then back at you (still smiling) whispers shakily, “Blessings.”
Thankully a Tiffany always is around to lend a helping hand. If not, Rebeccas can relate and so they will always jump in too.
Then there is Kathryn. I have a love hate relationship with the Kathryns of the homeschool mom community. I love that she is the organizer of all events and pours her heart out in all that she does.
Without her who would bring us all together?
She is like the homeschool version of the PTA mom. Thanks to all the Kathryns, we get to do all of the things. She also stops you at every event and wonders if you will bring a casserole to the next pot-luck or lead the next co-op class. You would love to but you are more like a mutant version of Rebecca, Nicole, and Celeste so…
Not today Kathryn, not today.
What about Angela? Each homeschool year she aspires to be a Susan but 9 days in reality hits. Planning and schedules are thrown out the window then Rebecca emerges. Because really, who lives without coffee? She goes to all the homeschool conventions, openly admits to being a convention junkie, and tags you in all the homeschool events. You know the type and so do I. You can find her at Schoolingwithgrace.com.
Tanya. A seasoned homeschool mom who practically spits at the mention of common core. She rode out the jean skirt wearing homeschool era and secretly wishes it would make a come back. Always wears her hair in a bun. Drinks her coffee black and started the homemade elderberry syrup movement. Stares down anyone who calls k-12 online school “homeschooling.” Her children are respectable and well mannered. Everything you hope yours grow up to be. She is wise, knowledgeable, and the type everyone seeks advice from.
Has been having children since 1999. Drives an Extended Ford Transit. Has tried all the curriculums, copies, and laminates everything. Carefully schedules everything because she has to. Use coconut oil religiously. Refers to her children as “Gods arrows.” If you need an additional educational resource she has it in her curriculum closet.
This is fun.
A brand new homeschool mom and completely ok with online k-12. She is trying to figure it all out and still considers it school at home. Has a “you do you” mentality. Her search engine history shows that the word homeschool and socialization has been googled 500 times. She scours pinterest homeschool boards for inspiration and educational freebies. Recently heard about “de-schooling” from another homeschool mom but is trying to do school at home to see if it works first.
Don’t laugh, you do you.
Maybe you are a Sarah? A blend of them all. Has two kids and waiting for more. Highly organized but willing to adjust schedules and plans for the sake of sanity. Takes her cream and sugar with coffee, relishes every sip. Then maybe an herbal tea in the afternoon. Sort of crunchy and purchases her elderberry syrup from homesteading homeschool moms (say that 5x fast) like celeste. Has said, “loves me some Charlotte Mason” but ok with being eclectic when her children need something different. Is an odd strain of introversion that loves to socialize in doses.
While there are so many homeschool personality types I can relate to them all. Honestly, after meeting and getting to know everyone I’ve felt a kinship with the Rebeccas, Nicoles, Celestes, Susans, and even the Kathryns. I love all the differences and personalities. In the homeschool mom community I have found my mom tribe.
Which homeschool mom are you?
Are you a blend? Leave your type in the comments. If I missed you, describe it, and name yourself!