Have you come across negative criticism from those that don’t homeschool? Maybe from family or friends? Sometimes it is just strangers online who seem to lose their manners when it isn’t a face to face conversation.
How do you respond or what do you say?
I receive passive aggressive comments from people I personally know. Plus, since I write a homeschool blog I get negative criticism in my inbox or social media platforms more often than I would like. I have even been told that we took the easy way out. To which I just stood their blinking not even sure what to say.
These are some of the comments I’ve received and a candid response to the negativity.
“Good for you that you guys get to sit around and homeschool while the rest of the working class has to run things.”
Seriously, have you forgotten your manners?
Homeschool moms and dads certainly do not homeschool because it is the easy thing to do nor do we “sit around all day.”
We are providing the best education our own kids can get. It is hard work and takes additional sacrifice. While our taxes go to a school system that we don’t even use and we still have to purchase our own educational resources and curriculum.
Most of us are not sitting on piles of money either many have to make financial sacrifices to live off of one income. Like myself, some work from home and others work outside of the home- and still homeschool.
Regardless of their employement status all homeschool moms contribute to society by raising and educating their own children completely independent of a school system. Which actually saves taxpayer money since we are paying into a system we don’t even use.
“Homeschool children are not adequately prepared for the real world.”
That is an outsider opinion which is so outdated and shocking that people still think this way. We don’t hide our children in our houses all day.
Homeschooled children are actually in the “real world” since they are not confined to a classroom with same age peers most of the time.
While we homeschooling parents certainly want our children to get along with same-aged peers, we think more broadly and deeply, viewing the issue from a long-term, vertical perspective. In other words, because our ultimate goal is to move our kids toward becoming mature adults of strong character, we know they shouldn’t be limited to forced association with large groups of same-aged peers in the artificial environment of school buildings, all day, every day.
Instead, our kids spend time with people of all ages and backgrounds in many different venues, interacting with and learning from them all.
“Not every child gets the proper home school education. I volunteer at our local school and my spouse is a public school teacher. Occasionally we get homeschool students that can’t even read or write. If you are going to homeschool you should really do your research.”
That is so funny so do we…this is a common problem I hear from homeschool parents that pull their children from public school. Their children were struggling academically and felt they could get a better education at home. We did our research and we found that homeschooled children out performed their public schooled peers socially and academically. (NHERI.org)
Therefore research supports that a home education is what is best on average overall.
“I don’t know how you do it you are so brave to spend that much time with your children all day. You are probably going crazy.”
Blink. Blink. Blink.
I think comments like this drive me crazy but not my kids. We don’t always get along but overall we love being together. In fact, since we spend a lot of time together we have a deeper and richer relationship. Which is something I missed out on with my own parents. Since I went to conventional school myself I notice the difference. I didn’t have the connection with my own parents that we have with our own kids because I spent more time away from my parents than I did with them.
More importantly, I am incredibly thankful and grateful to have this opportunity with my children. I love it and enjoy my time with my children. It isn’t a bad thing if we joyfully homeschool. Whatever the choice, it may not be easy but we homeschool because it is what is best for our family.